Self Esteem Test Online – Fill Out and Use

1.

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I generally feel anxious in new social

situations where I may not know what is

expected of me.

2.

___

I find it difficult to hear criticism about

myself.

3.

___

I fear being made to look like a fool.

4.

___

I tend to magnify my mistakes and

minimize my successes.

5.

___

I am very critical of myself and others.

6.

___

I have periods in which I feel devastated

and/or depressed.

7.

___

I am anxious and fearful much of the time.

8.

___

When someone mistreats me I think that I

must have done something to deserve it.

9.

___

I have difficulty knowing who to trust and

when to trust.

10. ___

I often feel like I don’t know the right

thing to do or say.

11. ___

I am very concerned about my

appearance.

12. ___

I am easily embarrassed.

13. ___

I think others are very focused on—and

critical of—what I say and do.

14. ___

I fear making a mistake which others

might see.

15. ___

I often feel depressed about things I’ve said

and done, or things I failed to say or do.

16. ___

I have avoided making changes in my life

because I was fearful of making a mistake

or failing.

17. ___

I often get defensive and strike back when

I perceive I am being criticized.

18. ___

I have not accomplished what I am

capable of due to fear and avoidance.

19. ___

I tend to let fear and anxiety control many

of my decisions.

20. ___

I tend to think negatively much of the time.

21. ___

I have found it difficult to perform

adequately or without embarrassment

when involved in sex.

22. ___

I’m one of the following: The person who

reveals too much personal information

about myself or the person who seldom

reveals personal information.

23. ___

I often get so anxious that I don’t know

what to say.

24. ___

I often procrastinate.

25. ___

I try to avoid conflict and confrontation.

26. ___

I’ve been told I’m too sensitive.

27. ___

I felt inferior or inadequate as a child.

28. ___

I tend to think that I have higher standards

than others.

29. ___

I often feel like I don’t know what is

expected of me.

30. ___

I often compare myself to others.

31. ___

I frequently think negative thoughts

about myself and others.

32. ___

I often feel that others mistreat me and or

take advantage of me.

33. ___

At night, I frequently review my day,

analyzing what I said and did or what

others said and did to me that day.

34. ___

I often make decisions on the basis of

what would please others rather than on

what I want or without even considering

what I want.

35. ___

I often think that others don’t respect me.

36. ___

I often refrain from sharing my opinions,

my ideas, and my feelings in groups.

37. ___

I sometimes lie when I feel that the truth

would result in criticism or rejection.

38. ___

I’m fearful that I will say or do something

that will make me look stupid or

incompetent.

39. ___

I do not set goals for the future.

40. ___

I am easily discouraged.

41. ___

I am not very aware of my feelings.

42. ___

I grew up in a dysfunctional home.

43. ___

I think life is harder for me than for most

other people.

44. ___

I often avoid situations where I think I will

be uncomfortable.

45. ___

I tend to be a perfectionist, needing to

look perfect and to do things perfectly.

46. ___

I feel too embarrassed to eat out alone or

to attend movies and other activities by

myself.

47. ___

I often find myself angry or hurt by the

behavior and words of others.

48. ___

At times I get so anxious or upset that I

experience most of the following: heart

racing or pounding, sweating; tearfulness;

blushing; difficulty swallowing or lump in

my throat; shaking; poor concentration

dizziness, nausea or diarrhea; butterflies.

49. ___

I am very fearful of criticism, disapproval,

or rejection.

50. ___

I rely on the opinion of others to make

decisions.